You are just about to drift off, and it happens - the" What If Monster" is here with a nagging yet crucial question - What if my adult children need financial help? The cost of living is at an all-time high, and no parent wants to see their child struggling. Unexpected medical bills, job loss, student debt, and rising costs can lead even the most independent people to need occasional help. With 50% of parents assisting adult children, there is a strong urge to step in. However, before you invite the "What If Monster" to keep you up at night, let's discuss approaching this delicate situation with heart and clarity that protects your financial future.

It's Normal to Want to Help, But It's Okay to Set Boundaries

It's natural to want to help when your child has difficulties. However, you must think about your financial future. By allowing your adult child to foster their economic independence through budgeting and setting clear expectations, you can provide them with the assistance they need while setting boundaries.

Start With a Conversation, Not a Check

You don't have to immediately reach for your checkbook the second your child asks for monetary assistance. Pause first and try to understand their situation.

Is This a One-Time Emergency or a Recurring Issue?

Sit down with your child and ask them questions. Did an unexpected emergency come up, or will they need financial help every month? Ask them to explain the situation. Did their car break down, or will they need help paying their rent every month? Subtly explain the difference between a one-time emergency and a recurring issue. While just about everyone has the occasional unexpected expense, a recurring issue is the first indication that your child may be living above their means.

Are They Looking for a Short-Term Loan, a Gift, or Advice?

Find out what your child's expectations are. Do they plan on paying the money back within a few weeks, or do they consider the funds a gift? Maybe your adult child isn't asking for money, but they just need some better advice on managing their finances. You not only have to think about what is right for them, but yourself as well. Remember that gifts of $18,000 or less per recipient fall under the annual "gift exclusion" for tax purposes .If your gift exceeds that, it must be reported to the IRS. When it comes to loans, even between family members, the IRS mandates that any loan between family members be made with a signed written agreement, a fixed repayment schedule, and a minimum interest rate.

What's the Long-Term Plan for Getting Back on Their Feet?

An honest, judgment-free conversation can help you determine the best, most sustainable way to assist—without enabling unhealthy patterns or draining your resources. Don't be afraid to ask your child what their long-term plans are. It's easy for adult children to assume their parents have unlimited funds. However, you know that this is not the case. Is your child planning on restructuring their finances so that they can get back on their feet? Perhaps he or she is looking for a side job or finding ways to cut back on unnecessary costs like refinancing a car loan, consolidating debt, or shopping around for better deals on required services.

Ask Yourself: Can I Afford to Help?

Helping shouldn't come at the cost of your financial security. Here are some eye-opening questions to get you started:

• How will helping them affect your retirement plan, 401(K), or emergency savings?
• Are you dipping into funds meant for long-term goals, healthcare needs, or other necessities?
• Do you have other children to support or responsibilities to balance, and don't want to get behind on your bills?

The golden rule: Don't sacrifice your financial future to fix someone else's present. A trusted financial advisor can help you assess what's realistic and healthy for both sides.

Ways to Help Without Writing a Blank Check

You don't always have to hand money over. There are other ways to help. Consider these thoughtful, strategic alternatives:

• Offer to cover a specific expense - Perhaps you can pay this month's rent or buy groceries this week rather than just giving a random amount.
• Help create a budget or financial plan - This helps with economic independence.
• Co-sign with caution. Know the risks if you're asked to co-sign a loan. Read and understand the terms, and make sure your child will be able to make payments.
• Gift wisely - Use annual gift tax exclusions and document everything clearly.
• Connect them with a financial advisor - This guides them toward sustainable decisions.

Strengthen Your Financial Future: Keep the What-if Monster Quiet With a Plan

Every parent wants to help their children, but you must do so without risking your peace of mind. The best way to quiet the "What If Monster" is with a thoughtful, proactive plan that considers your goals, protects your financial future, and offers the support your children may need.

If you've been thinking about what will happen if your adult child needs monetary assistance, we're here to help you explore the right approach. Raymond James and its advisors do not offer tax or legal advice. You should discuss any tax or legal matters with the appropriate professional. We can help you plan how to structure financial gifts, adjust your retirement strategy, or set expectations. We can work together to find a path that supports everyone - eliminating those sleepless nights.

At Crossleyshear, we dedicate ourselves to helping you learn how to support your family while staying secure in your own future. Contact us today for more information.

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Raymond James and its advisors do not offer tax or legal advice. You should discuss any tax or legal matters with the appropriate professional.